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Love Like a Pro: Relationship experts share advice for every stage of the game

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Relationships and dating are hard—social media is isolating, and pressure to be in a relationship is reinforced this time of year. That’s why twin brothers Jonathan and David Bennett started Double Trust Dating, a company that helps people improve their social skills, which are foundational to success in dating and relationships.

“Charisma, con dence, charm—people think you’re born with it but it’s like any skill that you can improve and develop with practice,” Jonathan said. David points out that love and relationships are an important aspect of life, and they’re worth investing in. They should know: both brothers are certi ed relationship and life coaches.

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Whether you’re single and looking or in a long-term relationship, sharing your life with someone takes work. Here are some tips from the Bennett brothers for all stages of relationships.

Dating

(614): What’s the best way to approach dating?

Jonathan: First, be open. We have a checklist mentality […] we have a long list of things we want in a partner. Looking based on that list doesn’t usually lead to love, it leads to a lot of first dates and dissatisfaction. Love is a feeling, and a lot of loves and crushes don’t meet those checklists. When you “swipe right” and give people who don’t match that list a chance, you’re more likely to find that deep connection.

David: Second, be approachable. Brush up on your social skills and talk to people throughout your day. So many of us are closed o —we’re on our phones or have headphones on.

(614): How do I meet people?

David: While online dating can be helpful, it’s more e ective to meet people in the real world. What leads to falling in love is interacting. Get out! Go to your regular hangouts and interact. Go to new places that present social opportunities. Look for things that reflect what you enjoy and your values; it’s easier to talk and connect when you have things in common. There are a lot of opportunities such as religious services, clubs and trivia nights.

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Committed Relationships

(614): What should I do in the beginning of a committed relationship?

Jonathan: Balance chemistry with core values. Be proactive and ask questions about goals, milestones and what constitutes monogamy. Know that you may have more chemistry with someone that seems like an odd match, and little chemistry with someone who seems perfect on paper. Be careful of outside noise such as “my mom and friends love him but I’m not sure.”

(614): How can I start my marriage off right?

David: There’s a dopamine high for a few weeks after the wedding but then things go back to normal. The brain chemicals of passion last two to three years, then couples have to confront the reality of the relationship. Know that your relationship always requires work, and keep things fresh. Also, keep working on yourself and maintain other relationships.

(614): How can I keep my relationship strong when I have kids?

Jonathan: Prioritize the romantic relationship. If it becomes all about the kids, the romance dies. “Kids come first” can translate into, “I don’t matter.” People feel guilty prioritizing sex and romance, but you need to give time to the relationship— and to yourself.

(614): We’ve hit a rough patch. What now?

David: Continual honest and authentic communication—no topic is o limits. The things we default to when we’re not communicating [such as] passive aggressive communication, expecting someone to read your mind, the silent treatment lead to anger and aggressive communication.

Moving On

(614): How do I get out of a relationship unscathed?

David: Again, communication. Many times breakups are bad because there was a lack of communication and the breakup is out of the blue, even though it seems obvious to the other person. If you’re honest throughout the relationship, the breakup is less of a shock.

Jonathan: Keep the breakup as private and amicable as possible. Keep it o social media, and take time to process your emotions. The emotional center of the brain where love comes from is the same place hatred comes from—that’s why you can feel love and deep hatred for someone at the same time.

(614): How do I start over after a breakup?

Jonathan: Be single and enjoy it! Not feeling like you need someone right now leads to better relationships later. Take at least a few weeks to process the breakup and reconnect with people. Jumping in too fast can cloud your decision-making.

David: When you’re ready to start dating, brush up on your dating and flirting skills since you haven’t used them in awhile. Don’t be afraid to fail and laugh at the bad parts. Get help if needed—there’s a stigma around seeking help

with dating, but we join a gym to work on our health so why not seek the same support for relationships?

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Michael B. Jordan’s curated drive-in comes to Columbus this summer

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Michael B. Jordan is curating your next two months at the drive-in.

Starting tomorrow, Amazon Studios and Jordan’s Summer Screening Series will take over 20 drive-in theaters across the U.S. Lucky for Columbus residents, the South Drive-In, 3050 S. High St., is one of them.

Every two weeks, Jordan’s curated series will come to the South Drive-In. Each night will consist of a double feature that correlates to a very specific theme to celebrate multicultural voices in film.

It’s free to attend the screenings, but it’s first come first serve for downloading and securing your spot for the shows. Below is the list of films that are playing each week as well as links to download passes. 

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All aboard! Next stop: Franklin Park Conservatory

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If you’ve been wondering when you’ll have the chance to get lost in another Franklin Park Conservatory and Botanical Gardens exhibit, well...wonder no more! 

Starting tomorrow, Franklin Park Conservatory will be hosting the Paul Busse Garden Railway through Jan. 6, 2021. The displays are erected in the outdoor gardens of the Grand Mallway in celebration of the 125th anniversary of the John F. Wolfe Palm House.

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Applied Imagination, an award-winning group of creatives and producers of some of the most beautiful garden displays, said the Paul Busse Garden Railway will feature 1,122 feet of miniature train tracks that “weave through gardens, over visitors’ heads, and alongside waterfalls.” Busse, a graduate of Ohio State University, began his model railway career by creating a railroad for the Ohio State Fair in 1982.


"We saw more people than ever connecting with nature during the pandemic, and the Paul Busse Garden Railway is a great way for the community to continue this appreciation. This exhibition invites visitors to look at plant life in a different way, right down to every sculptural detail. We are so excited to welcome the community back to the Conservatory with an exhibition that celebrates nature through an Ohio artist’s eyes."


Conservatory President and CEO Bruce Harkey in a press release


For information on health and safety guidelines to follow when visiting the exhibit, head to the website here. The Paul Busse Garden Railway is also sponsored by the Cardinal Health Foundation and Giant Eagle, with support from the Greater Columbus Arts Council and the Ohio Arts Council. 

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Columbus Marathon Canceled

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The Nationwide Children's Hospital Columbus Marathon has announced the cancelation of its 2020 Marathon. Originally planned for Oct. 18, the marathon is the latest in a string of future events cancelled due to COVID-19. 

Board Chairman Dan Leit stated “The safety of our athletes, volunteers, first responders, team and the entire community is the top priority for our event.” 

The races Director Darris Blackford stated in a press release that “When you think about the best health and safety practices needed to help slow the spread of the virus, holding a major running footrace isn’t the responsible thing to do right now.”

Since its debut in 2012, the race has raised over $10 million for Nationwide Children's Hospitals patients and families. 

There is not yet an announcement on what form of fundraising event will take place instead, and athletes have been sent instructions for how to receive a refund for the event in the meantime. 
View the full release here

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